Sexual difficulties that I most often encounter in my work are; Problems with Desire, which can be too high, too low or discrepant from your partner’s. Difficulties with Arousal. Such as difficulty in becoming physically aroused or difficulty in maintaining arousal. Absence of Orgasm or difficulty in postponing orgasm and Genital Pain or Spasm. Those can also affect your Intimate Relationship or be caused by it. Besides the main aim of Resolving Sexual Difficulties, therapy would often provide: Unlearning Sexual Myths, Learning to Relate to Your Own Mind and Body, Deepening Intimacy / Communication and Lifestyle Improvements.
I believe we don’t need to suffer or be challenged in therapy in order to progress. This can be done in a light-hearted way by focussing on your strengths. By no means your difficulties will be minimised or not duly acknowledged. It is important to do a clear and detailed assessment of your presenting problem as that is the starting point of our work. Regardless of my professional training and clinical experience, I don’t hide behind the role of the “expert”. I engage with you in dialogue first of all as a fellow human being. Our level of openness and ease with each other is the most contributing factor to the success of therapy. You’ll be fully informed about any interventions or homework beforehand
I also offer:
1) Psychosexual Education and Guidance
It is for those preparing to enter Psychosexual Therapy or for those wanting to discover their own Optimal Sexual Practise. Themes explored: Finding Your Sexual Preferences, Negotiating Discrepancies, Expressing Your Sexuality (conquering guilt, shame and embarrassment), Deepening Intimacy, Deepening Self Care (including more self-compassion-acceptance and less self-criticism), Utilising Full Power of Your Senses (touch, sight, voice, breath and movement).
2) Instructions on Mindfulness and Sex
…for those interested in how to be fully present during sex instead of being focused on sexual performance. How to be optimally relaxed and aroused at the same time. Practising sex without pressure of reaching the end goal. How to be playful, natural…or just yourself. How to not depend on spontaneous (biological) desire for sex.
3) Course in Meditative Sexuality – Journey Beyond Orgasm
For those searching to find a sexual way into Ecstasy. The themes explored; How is possible for all men and women to be multiorgasmic? How to use sex for expanding consciousness and maintaining health. Blending of sexual and emotional arousal. What is the lifestyle that would prepare us for this practice?